Hot Wifing or Wifelovers are often born out of the swinging lifestyle as defined below. Swinging couples often find it difficult to hook up with another couple as all four parties have to mesh. Some open minded husbands who enjoy watching their wives get pleasure from other men will often suggest meeting another man for a threesome. Hence the Hot Wife is born. Many husbands enjoy taking pictures of their hot wife with other men. They enjoy posting these pictures on the Internet and "showing off their hot wife". They enjoy her dressing sexy and being the object of desire from other men. Ultimately though the husbands control the sexual encounters their wives have with other men. They may participate in a threesome with the other man or they may wait until afterwards and enjoy "sloppy seconds".

These men do not want to eat another mans sperm out of his Hot Wives vagina as a cuckold might want to but they do enjoy the feel of another mans sperm in their hot wives vagina on their penis. Hence the term "sloppy seconds".

Hot wife couples continue to participate in the swinging lifestyle with other couples where as cuckold couples tend to be with only men exclusively.

Swinging Defined:

Swinging, sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle or simply The Lifestyle (although this simplified term is also used by people into Leather and BDSM), is "non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple."

Swinging activities can include (but are not limited to):

Exhibitionism: having sex with a partner while being watched. Hot Wives are natural exhibitionists.

Voyeurism: watching others have sex (perhaps with the above mentioned partner). Many husbands have voyeur tendencies.

Soft Swinging or Soft Swap: kissing, stroking, or having oral sex with a third or fourth person. This may be in the form of a threesome or group sex, or partners may literally be swapped.

Full Swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one's partner, which is the commonly understood definition of swinging (though not necessarily the most common type.)

Group Sex: An all inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity. Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages with either another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. Sex on these occasions is often referred to as play. My Wifelover couples enjoy group sex.

Gangbangs: husbands will often arrange for a group of men to have sex with their hot wives at the same time.

The phenomenon (or at least its wider discussion and practice) may be seen as part of the sexual revolution of recent decades, which has occurred after the upsurge in sexual activity possible due to safer sex practices that became prevalent during these same decades.

While the vast majority of swingers are heterosexual couples, a major part of Lifestyle activities are bisexual in nature. A large portion of female swingers, while they may or may not identify as bisexual, are interested in female-female sexual contact. Male-male contact is more rare, but does occur.

Swinging is sometimes called wife swapping, but as it is andocentric and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities that can swingers may take part in, this term is now relatively archaic. A more common term amongst swingers is simply The Lifestyle, as it is becoming increasingly referred to in contemporary culture. Though there are certain key differences in the implication of the two terms, "The Lifestyle" and "swinging" will be used interchangeably within the scope of this article.